Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Sacred...and Today's Emotional Update from Dave's Wife

As we sat down to supper I remarked to Victoria how this seems almost sacred because right now Dave and Karen would wish for not much more than sit together and have supper.

Today's scripture I pray upon Dave and his family...
 The LORD bless you, and keep you;
      The LORD make His face shine on you,
            And be gracious to you;
      The LORD lift up His countenance on you,
            And give you peace.’

For the simple sacredness of every day task
For a sweet night’s rest
And God’s faithfulness; not for what we ask
But for what He deems Best
For shoulders to cry on
God’s love to rely on
In trouble and sorrow’s strife
For bread to break
And hearts that ache
With the wonder of love and life

© Janet Martin

Thank-you so much for all your prayers so far. More needed! 

Pray that he may heal and come back to his home
(the link is to an old post that includes Dave's thoughts of home.

Today's update from Karen is an emotional glimpse into their journey!

I know I should be sleeping but just can’t. Couple of reasons. Yesterday was such an emotional day for me, both physical and mentally. Physical my body is tired and emotionally had a meltdown. Watching Dave in all that pain, trying to roll over to sit at the side of the bed in order to sit up, but yelling in so much pain and telling them to stop! They did, but the physiotherapist just kept after him . I know that Dave wanted to get up but he just could not work thru the pain. I remember that so much.
Second I woke myself up with bad dreams. I was dreaming about my accident. Hopefully these done last long
Lastly my leg gave me a cramps again and woke me up and had a long time to get that away and then when I tried to go to sleep I just l laid there so I thought I might as well get up and read my email and write my update.
So the morning started off with the nurse saying he had a good night when I phoned in before I came down, but when I first walked in I thought his color was off, and he wasn’t very talkative ( now Dave is always been a quiet man ), he just kept saying ‘his ribs hurt, his ribs hurt’. Dr. came in later in the morning and said Oh Dave you don't look so well today are you still in a lot of pain? Dave said yes my ribs just hurt, just really hurt. The Dr. said he can’t up his meds because that will sedate him and we can't have that; he has to be awake in order to get him up and sitting so we can keep his lungs healthy.
Later in the morning the physiotherapist came in to get him sitting at the side of the bed. They tried for a long time but he couldn’t. Dave was waiting for the pain to let down a bit and then he would try, but it just wouldn’t stop. My tears would not stop; so hard to watch him try and do this but can't. He is so strong thru all this so far, and he just couldn’t. The pain was just too much. Watching this made me go into a meltdown. I have tried to be so strong for him so far but today just broke me. They finally said Ok they will not sit him up now and maybe try later, well later never happened. He was just not strong enough to do it
Shortly after they left he had his coughing spells and they are so hard on him. It’s good he is getting all the stuff out of the lungs, but he has to work so hard
After lunch his parents came to sit with him and I went and sat in the other room to take a break and breathe. Did a lot of emailing with Marlene and she help me thru. Then my brother, and my mom and dad came out. I needed them. Giving my mom and dad big hugs and just crying on their shoulders helped so much. My brother took me to the lab to get my blood work done (just my normal monthly INR )to make sure my blood level is fine so I don’t get a blood clot. He and his wife helped me with some Work stuff and that was a relief off my back.
Got back from the lab and Dave's color in his face was much better; his pain had let back.
He fed himself half his supper and then he let me finish feeding him. With his right arm still not working well it is so hard for him to eat by himself, but Dave with figure it out somehow. He keeps trying to do it more and more which is great, so I wait until he says ‘Ok help’.
Dave asked Josh to bring him down a crokinole stick. He uses that to help him get his bed up and down. He can’t reach back to get the button to make the bed do up and down - this works. He is also using it to move his pillows, push down his gown and pull his tray in.
He asked for TV so we got him one, but it is so hard for him. He can't reach to change the channels, so we put the baseball game on before we left
By the time we were ready to leave he was looking a lot better so it easier for me to go.
Came home and my kids are so WONDERFUL- they are looking after everything. Jessica is taking care of the house, Joshua, the business and man stuff around the house and Krista she is doing my flower beds. She made me three vases of flowers to brighten my spirit and the house-- and they all do so much more. I just can’t write everything. I came home and wanted to talk with them but Joshua just said ‘mom go to bed’. So I did. I miss my time in the morning and evening with Jessica- we just haven't had the time. Krista picks me up at 7 to take me to Dave and then I am home between 9:30 or 10:00 and need to go to bed. Jessica is so good about it, but I know she is missing it to,
So when I got up this morning I called down to the hospital to see how Dave is, Not the news I wanted to hear, he had a rough night. He just can't get into a comfortable spot. They tried to keep moving him to get a spot that feels better. I sure hoping he is not starting to get bed sores. She said she gave him his meds just now again so hopefully he can sleep a bit now. Not sure what he will look like when I come down if he didn’t sleep well.
So please send up some extra prayers for us today. Pray that we can get Dave comfortable so he can rest and get sitting by his bed. Pray to give me the strength to be strong for him and for my kids because they are dealing with so much. They all say they are OK but can use the prayers. Thanks for all the prayers already and I know that they will be lots more going out

Personal Note from me:
This morning I've cried with my sister Lucy and with my daughter Emily. 
We wish there was more we could do but Emily said something that really resonated in my heart;

"Prayer is not 'Nothing'
It's 'Everything' "


  1. Wow! This was really something. My prayers are for your whole family. May you all be strong and be each other's strength.

    1. Martin, I am so touched by your care! Tonight Karen called to say how much better today upswing on what she refers to as the roller-coaster. We value your prayers. thank-you!


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